Learn To Love You First.

LEARN TO LOVE YOU FIRST:

This is the very first article on my blog and I would like to discuss something that is of utmost importance to every single living being. It is usually something we tend to over look most times. Something we don’t seem to consider as important. But it is actually the most important part of our existence as humans. Love. Love is everything. When we love, we tend to be selfless, free, happy, fulfilled. And when we are loved in return, it is the very best feeling in the world. Loving right and being loved right is so very under rated, because a lot of us don’t know what it means to love right and be loved right. And that’s why there are several cases of broken homes, failed marriages, countless breakups, ruined friendships and partnerships, etc. Which is very sad really because we all need Love. Life itself is short, why not live it loving the right person well and being loved right in return? And all of this, true love, loving right and being loved right start with self love which is what a lot of people are still ignorant of in this time and age. Love you first, Love you well, Love you right and only then can you begin to understand what true love is, accept it and appreciate it when it’s given to us in its pure form.

Self Love: The Most Important part of our existence as humans, as lovers.

Below is a quote that sums up the importance of self love in its entirety. And further down, I’ll be sharing my personal thoughts on self love and also share a few personal experiences.

Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

As difficult as it is to admit, I believe it’s best we always tell ourselves the truth. So many people out there have no idea how to love or be loved. And that is because they do not yet know what love is or understand the concept of love. When you know what love is, understand how it works, learn all there is to know about love and loving and being loved, only then will you begin to live your best life. And that’s a fact.

A lot of broken relationships today, a lot of broken homes today, a lot of failed marriages today are as a result of one person or all parties involved not being able to love properly or accept love in its purest form. And that’s Because they do not yet KNOW what true love means or how to even begin to love. And because they do not know how to love, they can’t accept love especially when it is real and pure.

Love, true love begins with one’s self. You have to look at yourself. Look at all of you, bare yourself to yourself. Go totally naked before you and see you in a way no one else ever could, in a way no one else ever will. You need to love yourself physically, mentally and every other way. Love yourself in such a way that, nothing and nobody could ever think less of you or make you doubt who you are.

A good way to do this is to get a full length mirror, go naked before your mirror and take a good intimate look at yourself. This exercise works best for loving ourselves physically. Because these days we live in a world with a lot of body shaming happening everywhere. Both online and offline. A lot of people hate their body, they don’t want to go out for fear of what people will say about their body. They feel small, ugly, insignificant and doubt themselves. Because they don’t think or know that they are beautiful, they don’t believe it when other people tell them they are beautiful. People like this are too many to keep track of and they are scarred in the worse way possible. Some of these people could be scarred for life. And that’s why SELF LOVE is the most important form of love and the best. We need to love our physical selves as well as our mental self. Get that full length mirror, let go of all that fear, all the doubt, let go of all the negative comment you have read or heard about your body, ignore those little voices telling you that you are not beautiful/handsome because those voices are lying you. Take off all your clothes, every single item of clothing you have on. Take it all off and stand in front of the mirror. Look at your body, take in every feature, take note of whatever flaw you may believe yourself to have. Touch them gently and passionately, admire them, worship your body, accept who you are in a way no one else ever could. Repeat this exercise at least twice every day. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin. When you you do this, you will learn to gradually accept every single physical flaw you have and then love them all passionately.

After accepting and loving our physical body, the next thing we must do is dig deep into ourselves and pinpoint every thing people around us have previously complained about. Take out a piece of paper, write out ‘your bad character/traits’. Learn those traits we know make us bad, understand why we can’t seem to let them go, know why we are passionately holding on them. Make all the excuses we can come up with and then begin to tell ourselves the truth. Admit that these things we do are wrong, apologize to yourself for not being willing to admit it earlier and then begin to learn how to let go of these bad characters/traits. Day by day, we work on ourselves, learn and relearn how to be better humans for use and for those around us. Unlearn the bad traits that seem to push people away from us. Toss those nasty attitudes into the bin and trash them, never to be a part of use again.

Lastly, we need to learn how to speak positively to ourselves. Say sweet words to ourselves every morning, say positive words to ourselves. Pray for ourselves. Speak positivity into our beings, affirm to everything good.

Let us do these things regularly and watch how we will come to admire ourselves, love ourselves in a way we didn’t even think was possible. We will grow better physically, mentally and emotionally. Even spiritually.

Until recently, I too have been doing it all wrong. I was not loving my partners right, I was reluctant to receive and accept any form of love. I was quick to hurt others because I was afraid of being hurt, because I didn’t think anyone could really love me or that I was capable of loving anyone, of loving myself. I avoided serious relationships because once it gets serious, I begin to feel stuck and I want out immediately and so I hurt them and push them away. It took me years but I was finally able to pinpoint what the problem was. I wrote down all the things I had been doing wrong, all the ways I was hurting those around me and by extension myself. I looked at myself in the mirror. I criticized myself, admonished myself, talked to myself. And then I started working on those things I was doing wrong. I started speaking positively to myself. When I pray, I declare good things on to myself. I take daily affirmations seriously. I sleep well. I eat well. I drink lots of water. I work out when I can, I laugh more, smile more, talk to the important people in my life. I try to be positive to myself and with myself. I work on my mind and mental health, I work on growing my spirituality, I work out to get the body I desire for myself, I let myself feel, feel the good in me and around me. I started to Love me. And today, I love me the most. I have put in the work. I am still putting in the work, I will continue to put in the work because I am a work in progress and some day I will be as perfect as any human can be, for me, myself and for those around me.

I put together a little lost of a few things you can try out to help you grow a positive mindset towards life and help you love yourself better and be a better human being altogether:

1.Eat well.

2.Learn to exercise.

3.Daily affirmations.

4.Positive mindset.

5.Laugh and smile often.

6.Drink lots of water.

7.Travel as much as you can, if you can afford to.

8.Meet new people, make new friends, attend parties, mingle, try out new restaurants.

9.If you can’t afford to travel, spend a day or two at any cozy hotel, just relax, and be taken care of.

10.Read books on self improvement, Love and motivation.

11.Read books on topics that interests you. Just make sure you read because reading also helps boost our mental health growth.

12.Talk to people who want to see you at your best.

13.Sleep and rest well.

That will be all for now. Thank you for spending A Moment With Jennie, I really hope this article will be as helpful to y’all as it has been to me, as it still is to me. We will continue on more beautiful topics on the next post. Believe me, there are more fun topics to discuss on and I promise to talk on as many of them as I can. Thank you for reading!