Cheating: A choice, Never A Mistake.

Cheating: A choice, Never A Mistake….

Hello!
Welcome to another article on A Moment With Jennie. This topic right here is a deep one. There could never be an end to discussions like this one. New arguments come up each day on this topic, different views, different opinions, different excuses…. Hmmm. Well, I’ve come with the gospel as always, to air my views, my ideas, my thoughts and hope someone out there, reading this will and can relate to the things I’ve written. Enjoy!

Cheating is exactly what it is, cheating. There is no excuse for it, there is no explanation for it. It is what it is. It is a decision you make, it is a choice to involve in the act of infidelity. It is a choice to intentionally defile whatever bond you share with your partner. It is a decision you make to ruin the beauty of your relationship. There is no excusing your actions. And don’t even try to say it is a mistake, because then you’ll only look stupid.

Many people, when they cheat or after they cheat, they make silly excuses like ‘it is a mistake’. No, it is never a mistake. There is the temptation to cheat, there is the choice to cheat. When you are being faced with the temptation, you have probably seconds, minutes, hours and sometimes days to think about what you are about to do. The moment you stop thinking and start doing, that’s when the choice has been made. The choice to cheat. So, it is never a mistake. Not when you do it the first time and definitely not when you repeat the same act.

Cheating partners don’t seem to care about the emotional and mental trauma, pain they put their partners through when they cheat. Not to mention the many STDs and STIs they bring back home to their partners. I have seen first hand the damage infidelity has brought to many homes and families, individuals and relationships. Makes me wonder why these people bother going into serious relationships or even getting married! Why put someone else through all this pain and agony?

Let’s discuss some damages caused by the choice cheating partners make;

1: When you cheat on your partner you break the trust they had in you. They no longer see you the same they used to. Whenever you leave the house, whenever you are not there physically with them, whenever you ignore a phone call, a text message, whenever you use excuses like ‘I’m busy/I was busy’ ‘ I was sleeping’ ‘I’m in a meeting’ etc, your partner automatically assumes snd believes that you are spending time with someone else, cheating on them ‘as usual’. It no longer matters if you are being sincere or not, that trust is gone, broken, shattered, could never be restored. Even if they forget, they will never forget.

2. Cheating partners are the reason there are too many children from broken homes, broken families today. The effect of their action not only hurt nor harm their partners, it hurts and harms their children too, the entire family. And if the children eventually finds out about them cheating, they lose whatever respect they had for them as their parents. Your choice to cheat, to have a few minutes of bliss, of pleasurable orgasmic fulfilment will end up destroying something as precious as your family.
3. When cheating becomes a habit to people, your spirituality suffers. Because let me tell you this, you are not just cheating on your partner, you are cheating yourself and you are cheating God as well. You are sharing a part of you with people that you are not supposed to. Your spiritual journey and growth begins to surfer, and eventually you find yourself in place of ruine. Your God no longer listens to you, you even find it hard to pray, your partner no longer trusts you, your children, family and peers no longer respects, so what is left of you exactly?
4. Let’s talk about the many diseases you bring home to your partner. And how is it that the person cheating isn’t always the one that surfers from their actions? Their partners and those around them surfers the outcome of their actions. I know of a woman who is currently battling with the knowledge that she is now HIV possitive, thanks to her cheating husband. She cries day and night, spends money on medication while her children surfers from lack of attention from their mother. This man single handedly brought destruction to his home. And there hundreds if not thousands of families like this out there.
5. When you cheat you make your partners question themselves. They wonder if they are the reason their partner is cheating. They wonder if there is something they are doing wrong or something they are not doing right, they search themselves day and night, wondering if they are to be blamed for their partners cheating on them. Some even come up with excuses for the nasty behaviour of their partners. When you go out there and make the choice to cheat on your partner, you mess them up in such a way that could almost never be repairable.
6. A man or woman that has previously been with a cheating partner, goes out into the world believeing every man or woman they meet to be the same as their ex. They have little urge to trust or even believe the things people say. ‘They are all the same’ ‘ Men are scum’ ‘ Women lie’. We hear these lines everyday. People don’t jusy wake up and say these things just for the fun of it. They say these things out of their personal experiences with cheating and lying men and women.
7. When you cheat and get caught in the act, you cause a great amount of emotional and mental pain to your partners. You hurt them in a way that only you can. You take them and their affection for you for granted, they trash their trust on you. They surfer in silence. They blame themselves. They think of themselves as not enough. Some women have been so scarred for so long that they now believe ‘It’s nornal for men to cheat’. And it is all thanks to their cheating partner, they are yet to meet a real man who sees only them, who respects them enough to fight off every temptation that tries to come between them, who loves them enough to have a great sense of responsibility and self descipline. There are lots of emotionally damaged women and men out their, all as a result of being unfortunate enough to meet a cheating partner.

People need to understand the kind of hurt and damage they cause other people because of the stupid decision they make when they go ahead and cheat on their partners. You hurt them in a way that cuts deep and probably may never heal.

You need to understand that, everybody has the opportunity to cheat, the chance to ‘enjoy’ themselves in the arms of other people. But they choose not to, out of respect for their partners, out of the self discipline they have mastered because they want to remain true to one person.

You don’t have the upper hand when you cheat. Instead you are the fool who shares himself/herself with countless other people. There is nothing special about that, that is not something to boast about. You should cover your face in shame because you lack the self respect, the self love, the discipline and self control to be true and faithful to one person.

People don’t seem to understand the amount of joy, happiness and fulfilment that comes with being faithful and true to one person. Giving them your all, respecting them just as they respect you. Loving them and trusting them, believing them and giving them reason to do the same to you and for you. The bliss that comes with all of this is immeasurable.

The idea of cheating disgusts me. And I have zero respect for people that cheat. Even if they are my friends or family member or someone close to me. It is disgusting and even irritating to know that people who cheat with clearless abandone are close to me, but unfortunately, that seems to be the case. And I have personally seen their partners surfer from this in the worse way possible. A lot of people I know cheat with pride, like there is a badge of honour that comes with cheating. They cheat without remorse, with no hope of ever changing or being better for themselves. They want to keep doing the same thing till the day they die. Without a care for how their partner, family and the people around them feels.

I’m done talking on this topic. It even angers me just writing on it. If you have ever cheated or is currently cheating or you are planning to cheat, I hope that when you come across this article, you would read and understand the harm your action is bringing not just to you but to the people in your life. Thank you for spending A Moment With Jennie, let’s spend more intimate time together in the next article. Thanks for reading!