Learning And Knowing When To Say No And Meaning It.

Learning and knowing when and how to say no and mean it:

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Welcome to yet another article on A Moment With Jennie. With the words written in this article in relation to the topic, I hope to help as many as I can, get their courage on how to deal with every situation. Let’s read with an open mind and learn the little we can from it. Enjoy!

Learn when and how to say no and mean…. This is a very powerful topic and it is for everybody! As long as you have family members, colleagues, friends, significant others, this topic relates to you and you need to read and learn!

When do you say no to crazy demands and expectations from loved ones?

Listen to me, the need for boundaries is needed for your own sanity. If you are open to every suggestion all the time from everybody, you will be drained until there is nothing left of you to give. If you give people the chance, they will take and continue to take until there is nothing left for you to give. That’s why that topic on self love and self care and self worth is of great importance to every living being. You must know your self worth, you must love yourself and care for yourself. You must build your self esteem. Only then can you be courageous enough to face the world and the many self centered humans living in it. Only then will you be able to boldly reject certain disrespect and crazy demands from people, especially those closest to you. Because those closest to you have the easiest access to you and sometimes they feel that gives them the right to Always ask and always take without a care for you nor your comfort. Because they know you can’t ever say no to them. Well, it’s time you start saying no and standing firm by it, say it to them and mean it. Do not flinch. Let them see and know how serious you are about your decision.

Being a people’s pleaser does not mean they love you or care about you or that they will also want to please you. Rather, they will walk all over you because they know you are soft and sweet and always nice, so they take your kindness for granted.

Not saying ‘NO’ because you feel bad or feel guilty and don’t want to hurt the other person only means you are willing to hurt yourself for them. It’s not worth it.

Not saying ‘No’ to people because you are scared of disappointing them is bad for your mental health. You need to start thinking of yourself. And saying NO to certain people is part of looking after yourself. Because saying ‘NO’ occasionally will help your mental health a great deal.

Not being able to say NO because you doubt yourself is a result of very low self esteem and you need to work on that. It’s not going to be easy, I know that. It was not easy for me too. But I learned, I practiced, I read books and I’ve improved a great deal. And I hope you will work on being better for yourself after reading this article.

Always feeling the need to please people will only harm you and drain you of precious energy. You need to recognize how wrong it is for you to always feel the need to say yes and please everyone.

Specific reasons one must say no and mean it:

1. If their request is ridiculous and extremely demanding or tasing for you, gently say NO to them. Don’t bother giving a long speech as to why you are saying NO. Just say ‘I’m sorry I already have so much to do, I can’t help you with that’. Or you say ‘Sorry I can’t do that, find someone else to do it for you’. Or you can just be really bold and say ‘NO’ and not bother with a reason. I like the last option best, the other two were too polite.
2. If you feel uncomfortable with what they are asking of you, please say no. If you are not comfortable doing it, then clearly it is bad for you. Don’t think too much about it. Say No, as calmly and be as polite as you can be but mean every word you say so they can see and know that you being serious.
3. If there is a feeling of guilt on your part when the request was made, this is a good time to be firm with your rejection and really mean it. If you feel guilty then it was not meant for you to do to begin with.
4. If you feel the need to say yes just to please them, that’s a situation that requires a big fat ‘NO’ please. They know you don’t have it in your to say no, they know you consider them to be of great importance to you, so they will keep asking and asking and demanding until you literally have nothing left to offer them.
5. When you feel that they are taking for granted. I know we all feel it when someone is actively taking us for granted. We know by their actions, their words, their tone, their demands, we see it in the way they look at us and how much they disrespect us by the things they make us do or ask us to. That’s when we need to start saying NO to them, wake them up from whatever self centred universe they are sleeping in with a resounding NO.
6. When we feel offended by the words they use, or the request they are making, then we know for sure that we must say NO as quickly and as firmly as we can.

Saying No is an important part of self care. We must and should learn and practice how to say NO and mean it. It helps our self growth, it helps our mental well being, it helps us function better mentally and emotionally. When you start thinking more about yourself instead of who to please or what you have to do whom, you begin to experience a different kind of glow within you which will reflect in every area of your life positively.

Ways to politely say NO to people:

1. Sadly, I have something else going on.
2. I have another commitment.
3. I wish I were able to.
4. I’m afraid I can’t.
5. I don’t have the bandwidth for that right now.
6. I’m honored you asked me, but I simply can’t.
7. Thanks for thinking of me. However, I’m not able to.
8. I’m sorry, I’m not able to fit this in.
9. Unfortunately, I already have plans. Maybe next time!
10. No, thank you, but it sounds lovely

Helpful tips on how to say NO:

1. Practice saying no. Knowing when to say no takes time and practice. The more often you say no, the easier it will become. Practice assertiveness in all areas of your life until the habit is built into your lifestyle.
2. Express gratitude for being asked. If someone asks you to do something and you respond with a no, a little bit of gratitude might help soften the delivery. Expressing thanks for being offered a new task will show others you care about their position, too.
3. Seek advice from others. Almost everyone can relate to the dilemma of people-pleasing. Ask your friends and family members if they have any tips. For professional advice, seek help from a mental health professional. They can give you expert guidance on how to say no the next time you feel put on the spot.
4. Understand the power of influencing tactics. Influencing tactics are strategies used to engineer a specific outcome. By gaining a better understanding of how influence works (particularly in the workplace), you can become a stronger and more assertive employee.
5. Be assertive but respectful. Not everyone who asks you to do something is trying to take advantage of you. They may just be desperate for assistance. If you can’t accept their offer, be respectful in how you communicate with them.
6. Don’t beat around the bush. Providing long-winded explanations about why you can’t do something rarely makes things easier. Instead, opt for a short, simple, and straightforward approach to saying no.
7. Take your time to make an informed decision. If you’re uncertain about whether you want to accept a new task, that’s okay. Take your time to consider the pros and cons, and then you can re-enter the conversation with a clear head.

I had to go do research on easier, more polite ways to learn how to say NO and mean it Because if I decide to use my own words they may not come out as nice or as polite as the words above. But most of all, I really hope this article will help you beautiful souls who are quick to please people and say yes to every demands or request learn to say a very firm NO and stand by it.

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