Oral Sex:
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Oral sex or cunnilingus or fellatio or anilingus:
Sexual contact between the mouth and the genitals or anus.
Cunnilingus: Stimulation of the vagina or clitoris with the mouth. This usually includes sucking or licking outside and around the vulva.
Fellatio: Stimulation of the penis with the lips, tongue, or teeth. It usually involves a sucking or licking motion, but may also include the use of the throat or teeth.
Anilingus: Stimulation of the anus with the mouth or lips.
Who does not love to have oral sex performed on them? Every one loves it. Everyone enjoys it! Everyone craves it, both men and women. So what is the problem really? Why are People constantly shying away from sex talks and especially if it is oral sex. These are acts you engage in and enjoy, why are you shy or embarrassed or ‘disgusted’ to talk about them?
Oral sex is a gift! Accept it and appreciate it. Be grateful for it! Someone has to really be into you for them to put their mouth in/on your genitals. So if someone decides to go down on you, you better be grateful for the gift and also return the favour for the love of peace and unity.
That’s the next thing I’ll be talking about. A lot of men find it hard to go down on their women. They find the act ‘disgusting’ but wants her to go down on them because they enjoy it. How selfish is that? How selfish can you be to only want to be at the receiving end of something so pleasurable and never want to give back the same pleasure you are getting?
Oral sex is sexual activity involving the stimulation of the genitalia of a person by another person using the mouth or throat, and may take various forms…. Says Google.
Oral sex is a form of foreplay, a prelude to actually having sex. But you must first talk to your partner before engaging in it. You must be comfortable with it and your partner must be comfortable with it too. Don’t go about expecting it from someone you have not even talked about it with. And it should never be forced. It should be something that should be given freely. We must always see it as a gift and not a chore because otherwise, what’s the fun in it?
Let’s quickly walk back to the topic of sex itself before we continue on this particular topic. Growing up and meeting people, it’s become more and more evident that a lot of people consider sex to be a chore. An obligation, a duty you must perform especially as married couples. That’s so sad. Sex should not be seen as a chore or a duty, because then it defies its purpose. It’s supposed to be fun and enjoyable, it is supposed to bring you bliss and pleasure. When you have sex out of a sense of duty, there will be little to no enjoyment in it for you. And your partner may feel worse after the act. There will be no reaction, no responses, just two bodies coming together with zero affection or enthusiasm.
I can’t understand why people will look at sex as a chore or a task or a duty. Married couples have it worse. I understand there are days you don’t have the urge to have sex, but you feel the need to just to satisfy your spouse. Which is why communication is required in every relationship. We can’t be in a relationship and not communicate properly. If we are a couple, we should be able to talk about every thing down to our moods. We need to able to share, communicating is also sharing. You talk about your fears, your shame, your anger, your goals, your pains etc. You also have to talk about your sexual urges or lack of it. Again, life is way too short to not be able to enjoy every part of it.
One of the beauties of oral sex is that, with or without actual sex, you can attain sexual pleasure or orgasm. So for married couples, on the days where one of you is too lazy to have sex or just not in the mood to have sex and the other is turned and can’t seem to quench their desire, oral sex is an option. Go down on them, or have them go down on you. Being able to pleasure your spouse/partner should be fulfilling. You have to feel the pleasure of it, knowing that with just one touch or one act, you can bring them to their knees, you can bring them pleasure and bliss.
Let’s also talk about how enjoyable oral sex is. A lot of people will swear they prefer oral sex to the act of sex itself. And that is very understandable especially for women. There are things the tongue of your partner could do to you that his penis could never achieve even if it goes on and on for hours. The tongues is soft but pleasurable, it brings a kind of pleasure and is so hard to even describe. There are various ways to pleasure a woman with your mouth while you can only pleasure a woman with your penis in just one way. You can suck, lick, nibble with the tongue. The right word should be ‘feast’ which has a way of literally driving her mad. Men who refuse to go down on their women are mean and wicked and selfish.
Oral sex is both pleasurable for the giver and receiver. You feel powerful and beautiful while giving or receiving oral sex as a woman. And as a man, you feel like a king, a warrior while going down on her.
And as pleasurable as oral sex is, there is also the risk of contracting an STD/STI through this act which is something a lot of people are ignorant about. Fluids are being exchanged during oral sex. Which is a very effective way of getting an STD transfered from one person to another. Which is why having casual sex should always be a ‘No-No’. Avoid it at all cost! Stay safe. A healthy life is bliss. It is a blessing knowing that you don’t have to constantly worry about what drugs to take for this diseases or that one.
Some people are opposed to oral sex due to cultural or religious reasons. While others are simply ignorant as to how much they are missing out by openly condemning the act because they ‘feel repulsed’ by the thought of it. I bet you if they ever get the chance to try it once, they will be hooked for life and they will feel stupid for the many times they condemned the act and the people involved in it.
If you are new to the act of oral sex and you don’t know how or what to do, ask questions. Have your partner direct you on what to do. Read books and watch videos. Don’t go about using your teeth where your teeth has no business being. This especially goes to the ladies, a lot of men have had at least one painful experience of a woman using their teeth on their penis all in the name of giving them a blow job. And some men are new to performing oral sex on a woman, please ask questions and have her guide you on what to do. Don’t go about using saliva and too much tongue where you are not supposed to. Don’t nibble when you are supposed to lick and don’t lick when you are supposed to suck. Please ask questions and watch videos and read books to learn how to orally pleasure a man or a woman.
There are very special people going about thinking and believing that oral sex ‘is not’ sex. Then they proceed to perform and receive oral sex from different people, believing that they are not having sex and basking in their ignorance of ‘oral sex not being sex’. You need to wake up and read and know and understand that if it involves the genitalia, it is sex! If it involves your sexual organs, it is sex! And really though, it is called ‘oral sex’, key word being SEX! COME ON!
And there are a lot of people who believe they can’t get any sexually transmitted diseases through the act of oral sex, that’s a big lie you are telling yourself. I said it earlier, oral sex also involves the release and exchange of body fluids. Which is an effective way of getting an STD. Experts say, although the chances if this happening may be low, there is still a high possibility of it happening.
Oral sex should not be a topic to shy away from or an act that repulses you or disgusts you. If you don’t want to engage in it, that’s fine but refrain from condemning other people enjoying the benefits of this act. And I would especially recommend this to married couples who are yet to see the beauty in this. It’s a fast way to spice up your sexual life and help you stop seeing sex as a chore or a duty to perform without fail.
That’s it on this topic. In what ever we do, let us try to stay safe abd be careful of our sexual partners. Thank you for spending A Moment With Jennie, let’s meet again and spend more intimate time together in the next article. Thanks for reading!
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