Sexual Life/Experiences For Couples:

Sexual Life, Sexual Experiences For Couples:

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Welcome to another beautiful article on A Moment With Jennie. And as usual I will try as much as I can to use my words to help as many as I can to stop with what they are doing wrong in their relationships and start doing things better for themselves and their partners. Enjoy!

Why don’t people in relationships talk about sex? Why won’t you talk about sex with your partner? How else is he/she going to know about your preferences, your desires, your kinks/fetishes(if any), how will they know what turns you on/off? I really do not understand why people shy away from this topic. It’s not insulting, neither is it degrading. So why not talk about what you want!

First things first: Listen, Sex is very important in every romantic relationship and even more important in every marriages. Which is why you need to talk about it, discuss about it every chance you get. When the two people in a relationship are able to bring sexual satisfaction to each other, there really will be no use in looking for external sexual partners. Except of course for the unfortunate ones who can’t seem to let go of their cheating behaviour.

One thing you need to understand is that, sex is a two way street, you both need to be able to satisfy each other, enjoy the moment, love the process, and in the end, cherish the memories you create. And this can only be achieved if and when both parties involved know what the other person wants and likes and then work on giving it to them the best way they can and the best way to achieve that is by talking about it.

As a woman, you need to be vocal with your man about your needs and desires. Tell him the things he needs to do to you and your body and how to do them in order to bring you the pleasure you desire. Look, men feel a sense of achievement or accomplishment when they bring pleasure to a woman. Only a selfish man who is yet to understand what sex is goes after his own satisfaction and release without caring for the woman. A real man always puts his woman’s needs before his own. He wants to know that he is capable of bringing his woman maximum satisfaction in bed. He wants to feel like a man when he sees the look of bliss and satisfaction on her face after sex. Ladies, please don’t take that away from your man. Give him the pleasure of knowing that he can always bring his woman to orgasm.

As a man in a relationship, always listen to her. Hear her, hear her words, pay attention to the things she is passionate about and then proceed to do to her exactly what she has talked about. Be a little more creative with how you do them though. Let your mind go wild, it’s supposed to be a memorable experience for you both. Think of more creative ways to pleasure her. Every woman has the tendency to scream if the pleasure hits the right spot. Draw out those screams from her. Feel the pleasure she feels for you and because of what you are doing to her. Feel pride in knowing that she is feeling this way, screaming this much because of you and only you. Make her desire you and only you. Draw out the pleasure. Make it last and make it feel good.

That’s why when I wrote the article on ‘the talking stage’ I emphasized on taking your time to get to know each other properly. Your sexual desire and want is a huge part of who you are, know that, believe it and accept it. Talking about sex, discussing about your sexual desires, wants and expectations is also part of getting to know each, which means you have to talk about sex during the talking stage.

As a couple in a relationship or marriage, share ideas on how you can both satisfy each other better. Do research, read books, listen to podcasts, have open conversations with other couples(if you can) and learn more about each other’s body. Know what turns the other person on, be vocal when you need to be. Don’t shut your mouth and expect your partner to know what to do to you and your body all on their own.

During the talking stage, and the topic of sex comes up, men are quick to voice their preferences and what drives them crazy. They are not just trying to be vulgar or raw. No, they are being vocal about their needs and wants. They want you to drive them crazy too just as they want to please you. Listen to him. And work on being able to pleasure him just as he is already imagining the many ways he can and will drive you nuts with desire. There really is a sense of satisfaction and pride that comes with knowing that this man appreciates your body and loves the things that you do him mentally and physically.

There are countless ways to add to your sexual experiences as a couple in a relationship or as a married couple. I’ll share some very intimate but effect ways you can both help the sexual part of your relationship grow;

1. Know your body: Past experiences with past sexual partners should be a good place to start. Remember the things they did that turned you on and also remember the things they did that turned you off. When you know and understand your body, you will know how to communicate your wants and needs and desires to your partner and tell them how you want it done, direct them on how they should go about bringing you the pleasure you crave and desire.
2. Be vocal: Be very vocal about what you want and how you want it done. Be vocal about the things that turn you on and the things that are not likely to turn you off. Talk about the things that will bring you pleasure. Talk about things you would like to try out and why. Talk about a fantasy you would like to try out. Always be open with your partner, use your words to help them know you and understand your needs and also guide them on how they can achieve giving you these needs.
3. Learn to be responsive: Don’t be shy to voice out your pleasure when something they are doing to you pleases you. Don’t hold in the moan and never hold in the scream. If he/she hits the right spot or touches in a way that turns you on, moan as loud as you can, scream down the roof, grunt out load, make them feel pride in pleasuring you. Give them reason to want to do more, be a better lover for you.
4. Listen your partner: I don’t just mean you should just listen to your partner’s words, I mean you should also listen to your partner’s body too. Pay attention to the details on their body, watch them as you pleasure them, take note of every reaction to your every touch. Know when to stop and when to add more pressure. Listening and paying attention to your partner’s body is very important when it comes to pleasuring them.
5. Read books/watch and listen to podcasts from experts: Listen, reading books broadens the mind. You gain more knowledge, wisdom when you read. And seeing as sex is an important part of our lives as humans, it is required that we read books on sex to better know and understand how we are and why we are the way we are. To better understand our different sexual preferences and why that is so. Read books to better understand your partner and their needs as well. Listen to podcast, watch videos and learn more on how to better your experiences in bedroom with your partner.
6. Dress to please your partner: This is for my ladies. Go out and do some intimate shopping. Get some very sexy dresses and lingerie for him. There should be days set aside mainly for the purpose of driving him nuts with want and the way you dress is one of the ways to drive him crazy. It builds anticipation too. And there is no better way to fully enjoy sex than when the anticipation has been building for hours, days…. Because by the time you get down to the actual act, you will both feel like you are about to burst wide open with desire, from the build up and when you eventually orgasm, it will be MIND BLOWING!
7. Role playing: Throw in a little kink every now then to spice up your relationship and your sexual life. Role playing is very much underated. People need to understand how intimate it is to role play with your partner. Because we all have fantasies and role playing is a way of playing out those wild fantasies. Talk about your fantasies and how you want it to play out and then plan the actual role playing and watch how your sexual life will blossom!

I am sure there are a millions of other ways to spice up your sexual life, but these are just the few I can come up with for now, we may have to visit it again and add a few more tips. But for now, try these out and watch what happens.

If you are yet to find your confidence sexually, then try to read books, watch sex experts discuss on how to know your body and also know your partners body too. Try on sexy underwear, lingerie, sexy dresses, see how you feel in them. Build up your imagination, find your own fantasy and then communicate them with your partner.

Y’all need to stop having mediocre sex and then complain about your sexual life. It goes both ways. Don’t depend on one person to bring you pleasure. Also work on yourself, know yourself and then work on knowing your partner and their sexual preferences. Put in the work. You both need to put in the work. Because only then will you be able to experience mind blowing sexual experiences with your partner.

That’s it for now on this topic. Thank you for spending A Moment With Jennie by reading this lovely article. Let us spend more intimate time together in the next article. Thanks for reading!