Should One Separate Their Family Members From Their Relationship?
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Welcome to another exciting article on A Moment With Jennie. This topic here is a very critical one. A lot of people have made mistakes that they have regretted and continue to regret based on their choices. Let’s discuss this topic and learn from our past mistakes. Enjoy!
Should I separate my family from my man/woman?
Well, first of all, you need to recognize the kind of family members you have. Do you they love and support you and your choices? Do they respect you and your boundaries? Then you need to know the kind of partner you are in a relationship with. Their personality and how they react when you talk about your family members. You also need to recognize the kind of relationship you are into. Is it the kind of relationship your family should know about? Should your family know this person? Will they approve of them? Is it really worth the hassle? Does your partner wish to meet your family? Do you want your part to meet your family? These are very important questions you need to first ask yourself before you make the decision to either involve your family in your relationship or separate them from your relationship.
I personal am particular about the kind of relationship you are in before deciding to involve your family members. Because you really should not be introducing everybody you meet or date to your family. It just does not look good. You can talk to them about this person but not necessarily introduce them until you feel the time is right for you to introduce them.
When I said, you should recognize the kind of family members you have first, I was not being sarcastic in any way. I was and I am still being serious. There are family members that will be against every partner you have. They will always want to find fault in this person. Even when the person turns out to be great with very little faults, they will pick at the very little faults and condemn this person over and over again. A lot of family members are just selfish and wicked and don’t want what’s best for you. They want you to themselves only. They won’t ever approve of anyone you bring home which should tell you they do not want you to be happy. And if you know this is who they are and how they are and you still go ahead and involve them in every relationship you get into and tell them of Every decision you make in your relationship, you are only hurting yourself. Because let’s face it, not every family member want what’s best for you and that’s a fact.
While there are family members that don’t want what’s good for you or your happiness, there are also family members that want what’s best for you at all time! They will always tell you the truth in all things, especially when it comes to your relationship. These are the ones you should pay attention to. You should always listen to them because they have proven time and again, their love and respect for you.
Know your partner well and recognize how they react when you bring up conversations about your family;
This is very important. A lot of people you will meet has zero interests in your family members and don’t want to hear you talk about them. You need to pay close attention to the person you are in a relationship with. However way they react to conversations about your family even before meeting them will tell you and show you how they really feel about you.
Recognize the kind of relationship you have with your partner;
Is it the kind of relationship you want to go a long way. Do you see yourself having a long term committed relationship with this person. Do they complement you in every way. Do you see a future with this person? These questions will help you decide if you should or should not introduce your partner to your family or get them involved in the affairs of your relationship with this person.
Also recognize your feelings for this person. How do you feel for them. Do they make you happy enough? Do you cherish them enough? Do they respect you at all? Do you respect them at all? And how do they even feel for you? Do you think they love you enough? Do you love them enough? You need to be able to answer these questions as well.
But one thing should be clear; ALWAYS SET BOUNDARIES!
With everyone in your life. When you set boundaries, everyone know where they stand and when to interfere and when not to. They will respect these boundaries you have set and know their place. Know what to say and what not to say. These boundaries will help everyone in your life respect your choices and your decisions. Your family will respect you, respect your partner, respect your relationship and the choices you make in your relationship. Your partner in turn will respect you, respect your decision to keep them away from your family and if you do decide to involve them, they will know to Always respect your family and every decision you make regarding them.
There are People who have zero boundaries, Everybody has access to them and every little information about them. That’s why you see friends disrespecting your partner, your family disrespecting your partner, your partner disrespecting you and your family and friends. This can only happen if you don’t set boundaries and let everyone know their places and how much they are entitled to.
Also note that: Telling your family about the person you are dating does not mean you are involving them in your relationship. It’s totally different and very much accepted. But when you tell your family every single thing that happens in your relationship or tell your partner Every single details about your family members, that’s you involving them. When you ask your family members for advice regarding your partner or what decision to make regarding them, you are involving them.
As much as I would love to tell you there is nothing wrong in involving your family in your relationship, I also need to tell you that as an adult, you need your privacy and personal space. You need to be able to enjoy your relationship without any external forces getting involved in any way. You need to avoid anything that may cause harm to your family or your relationship. Keep everything and everyone in their place. Let your relationship be your relationship and let your family be your family. Also let your friends be your friends too.
For peace to reign in your relationship, for the sake of your sanity and that of your partner, I’ll suggest you keep family away from your relationship. Mind you, this is just my personal suggestion. I am not telling you what to do. Just think things through, also try to sincerely and accurately answer the questions I listed earlier before making your decision. But all in all, always make sure that whatever decision you make will also make you happy and bring you peace in the end.
I hope my words here will help someone out there make a reasonable decision, one they can live with and not end up regretting. Thank you for spending A Moment With Jennie. Let’s meet again and spend more intimate time together in the next article. Thanks for reading!
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