Loving The Wrong Person

Loving the wrong person….

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Loving the wrong person…. Hmmm. This is deep. This is sad. But sadly, it is true that there a lot of people in relationships busy loving the wrong person. While some may be aware of their situation and still choose to remain there, there are a lot of other people who are yet to realize that they are in the wrong relationship, busy loving the wrong person the right way.

People often lose themselves in love and as poetic as this may sound we still believe in fairytales and we desperately want them to exist. We are a species of fully consumed animals who want to succumb into someone else’s faint arms, we are in constant search of golden armor that comes in the form of love to us. Love is tricky, it happens to you when you’re least expecting it. We often fall in love with people who we never really expected ourselves to be with. We want it to beautiful and pretty but love can be scary too. At times what we feel is the best for us or is the one for us turns out to be the wrong person.

I’ve had some time to do some research on this and I’ll be sharing certain tips on how to know that you are busy loving the wrong person. And also, I’ll be sharing tips on how not to love the wrong the person.

Signs that you are loving the wrong person:

1. When your feeling of affection is not being returned; You may love them with all your heart, do things no other person would do for anyone else, but they just don’t reciprocate. It feels completely one sided.
2. When you feel the need to act differently in order to please them or get their approval; You cannot be yourself in front of them. You’re always pretending to be someone else fearing they won’t approve of who you really are. You don’t think they’d understand and worse, accept you the way you are.

3.Your partner is emotionally unavailable. They choose to be distant. There’s a lot you want to do for them but it seems they don’t want your love.Neither do they want to be involved in your life. They have absolutely no interest in you. They don’t know what you want from life or the relationship and don’t even care.

4. They refuse to pay attention to you or your words; They’re a bad listener. They’re always hearing when you talk but rarely listening. They have no interest in knowing about what you want to do in life, how your day went or how you feel about them.Conversations with them are never satisfying. They don’t seem to understand you beyond your words and always go off on a totally different tangent.

5.Love isn’t what you feel for someone; it is about how someone else makes you feel about yourself. And you just don’t feel good about yourself when you’re around them. You’re constantly unsure of who you are in their presence.

6. You can talk to them several times during the day but you just cannot imagine having a real conversation with them. They not only miss out on what you’re trying to say, they go on to a different tangent you just cannot relate with every time you start talking about something. Some people just don’t connect on a mental level and there’s nothing you can do about it.
7. You’ve been with them for a really long time now but you still think you don’t know anything about them. Their whole life is a mystery to you, a world they just don’t let you in on. Loving your personal space is one thing, shutting people out is another.
8. They take you for granted, so much that it has started to bruise your self-respect. And if that is the case, walking out is the best option, for some people never change.
9. You’re becoming non-confrontational as a person because they just don’t know how to rise above fights and arguments. You’d rather avoid any conflict just because you’re scared they will turn it into a nasty fight. Sadly, being non-confrontational rarely works!
10. Every relationship has its lows, more downs than ups. But if two people connect with each other on the root level and have respect for each other, most fights get resolved with time. But if even the thought of making it work leaves you exhausted, you’re probably stuck with the wrong person.
11. You don’t look forward to meeting them anymore. You’re not excited at all; in fact, all you think about is how to avoid arguments and fights.You’re not happy with them. You may love them from all your heart, but you don’t love how you’re treated in the relationship. The cons of the relationship always seem to weigh the pros down.
12. They just don’t seem to care about your feelings. They don’t acknowledge all the efforts you put in for them. Neither do they respect you as a person.

13.They’ve been trying to mould you into the person they want you to be and you’ve been obliging only with the hope of being loved but you don’t like what you’re becoming. It is clear they don’t love you for who you are.

14. It is not always that a relationship fails because the other person is emotionally unavailable. Sometimes, they’re possessive, and that too to an obsessive level, leaving you with absolutely no personal space.
15. They need constant care and attention. They’re a little too needy and tend to totally depend on you for their survival.
16. They seem to be a little too demanding. They make you feel inadequate all the time and if a relationship makes you feel terrible about yourself, it’s not worth being in.They don’t trust you. They’re constantly doubtful and insecure about your loyalty. And there’s only so much you can do to make a person trust you.
17. If you try to get rid of them, they’ll somehow find a way to come back to you and pretend like you mean the world to them until their motive of coming back to you is done. They’ll vanish again in a gify and you would feel like a joker for trusting them again. They won’t ever give you whatever that you’re seeking from them. They’ll never be satisfied with the efforts that you put in a relationship and always nag about what isn’t there.

A few ways you can stop yourself from loving the wrong person;

1. Figure out what you want for yourself
   It is also a good idea to figure out what you want for yourself. In other words, determine what you want and need out of a relationship. Refrain from dating people that won’t meet the mark for you or are unwilling to compromise, so you are both able to get what you want.When your partner will not let you have your way sometimes, and everything is one-sided, this is how to know if you’re with the wrong person. An individual who respected you would be fair.
2. Work on your self-esteem
   Since your self-esteem may be the reason you think, “I fell in love with the wrong person,” this is something that you should work on. If you have suffered past trauma or abuse, it can be beneficial to work with a therapist about these issues. Taking advantage of therapy of this type can make a difference in how you approach diverse situations and assist in learning how to feel better about yourself.
3. See people for who they are
   When you find you are falling for the wrong person, you need to make sure that you see someone for who they really are. They may be attractive and say nice things to you, but do they treat you like their equal as well?Make sure that you aren’t sugar-coating your relationship. If there are things that don’t feel right to you, be honest about them.
4. Don’t let your loneliness dictate your relationships
   At times, you may be falling in love with the wrong person because you are feeling lonely. This happens, and you don’t have to beat yourself up about it. At the same time, you shouldn’t be in a relationship just because you are lonely. Instead, take some time to find out who you are and what you like. This will be helpful when the right partner comes along.
5. Refrain from trying to change yourself
   You should never try to change yourself when you are in a relationship. If you don’t know what you like and dislike, it is okay to learn new things, even while dating someone. However, when you love the wrong person, it may be more difficult to know your interests, and you might be more focused on what your partner likes. In an equal relationship, both parties should do things that they like. One person shouldn’t dictate everything the other person is able to do and where they can go.
6. Don’t try to change others either
   You shouldn’t try to change someone else either. If you find yourself loving the wrong person, you may not notice right away that there are traits they exhibit that you don’t like. At this point, it is unlikely that they will change these aspects of their personality. When you notice that you are unable to deal with some of these things anymore, you need to determine what you want to do about the situation.
7. Only date available people
   It is never a good idea to try to date someone that isn’t available. If someone is already in a relationship or is married, you should consider them off-limits and leave them alone. You can’t ask yourself why you fall in love with the wrong person when you fall for a person who can’t give you the things you need. Keep this in mind when checking out prospective partners or in-between relationships.
8. Learn how to communicate better
   In some cases, you might need to learn how to communicate better for a few reasons. One is to tell your current partner what you want, need, and expect from them. Another is to speak up when you don’t agree with something.Communication is key in any relationship, so working on this skill can prevent fights and allow you to have your opinion heard. Make sure you are getting something out of the relationship. Oftentimes if a person is falling in love with the wrong person, they won’t be getting much out of the relationship. Consider if yours is like this. Determine what you are getting out of your partnership and if this is enough for you.
9. Take your time finding a partner
   You should never rush into any relationship. It takes time to learn enough about a person to feel comfortable with them. This is also the case when you tend to fall in love with the wrong person. When you first meet someone, talk to them as much as possible so that you can glean relevant details out of them. Make sure that you are paying attention and that there aren’t a lot of issues that you disagree with them on, since this can tell you if you should be in a relationship with them or not. Don’t beg someone to date you. There might be times when you want to date someone, and they don’t feel the same way. You shouldn’t beg a person to date you. This is likely not a proper way to begin a relationship, and you may always wonder if they were just taking pity on you.
10. Listen to your gut
    Intuition is a powerful thing. You may suspect or feel that you have been falling in love with the wrong person, but you ignored it. Then after a while, you may have realized that they aren’t the one for you. Do your best not to ignore these feelings, since they could be protecting you and your heart from getting hurt. Don’t let fear keep you with someone that’s not right for you. You may also need to work on how you talk to people so you won’t be scared to speak with a person you like or want to date. Even if you are shy or feel anxious when you are around someone you are interested in, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t talk to them. This may be someone that you are compatible with.

That’s it on this particular topic,let’s hope this article helps someone reading it know better and choose better for themselves. Thank you for spending A Moment With Jennie. Let’s meet again and spend more intimate time together in the next article. Thanks for reading!