I quit my job a while back and now I am having mixed feelings about it.
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Welcome to another beautiful article on A Moment With Jennie. This particular article is base off a message I got from someone, so I decided to share here as there may be more people going through same issues. I’ll type out the message and then share my thoughts on it. Let’s keep our minds open, judge less and understand more. Enjoy!
” Hi, I left my job a while and at first I was glad I did but now I am having mixed feelings. I feel like I maybe made a mistake leaving it. It took me a really long time to get the job and I was beyond happy I finally got it. I mean now I could finally leave the house in the morning, come back in the evening. Have the security of having a job, a very good paying job at that. I can now take care of my own needs without having to rely on other people for financial help. After I started working, I enjoyed the work load, the challenges and fires I literally had to put out daily and at the end of the day, I go home fulfilled and happy. But after a while I notice that my boss takes advantage of his staff, gives them more work that was required, had no respect for his staff or any care whatsoever for their wellbeing. He kept demanding and demanding and after some years I had had enough of the job. The pay was good at first but years later the work seemed to be a lot more than what’s being payed. I was spending more and more time at work than in my own home. I only go home to bathe and sleep and then I am back to work. I had no social life, my spiritual life was suffering too and my love life was nonexistent. I was gradually fading away while working fir these people. After a while, I decided to quit and I did. At first, I was happy I did. I became free, I hung out with friends. I had more time for myself. I WAS FREE. But it’s been over six months now and I am yet to find another job, which is why I am having the mixed feelings and doubting the wisdom behind my actions months ago”.
Y’all remember how we always talk about self love, self care, self worth on this page? Remember the articles written on them? Well, this is one of those very important times to bring out your self worth, to dwell in your self love, to work on your personal happiness. Because if your job is physically, mentally and emotionally draining, then it is time you leave that job. No amount of money is worth your health. Because let me tell you, if anybody falls sick and dies on a job, the HR of the company will bring in a replacement almost immediately! Life is all about doing what’s right and best for you. That’s all that really matters. Catering to your own needs first. Before considering that of others.
If you are at a job and you are just like this person and you feel like your life is no longer your own, you need to start considering leaving that job because your sanity, your happiness and your health are and should always be what’s most important. Your bosses do not care about you at all and that’s a fact. They only care about thier own business and how you can help their business grow. And that is the truth!
A boss that will keep demanding without caring for you nor your comfort is not a boss you should keep working for. If you work for someone and you don’t feel safe, you don’t have any sense of security, you don’t feel happy, you don’t have time for yourself, you don’t have time for your loved ones, you don’t have time to socialize, then you better know that job isn’t one you still need to continue to work at.
Now let is take this message in bits. Let’s discuss when it is tims to leave a job. You know something is not right with your current job if all you can think is should I quit my job. Being at ease in a job requires time, but that in no way means you should crush yourself under the weight of ‘fitting in’.
While it should be your personal decision whether to quit a job or not, you must consider the following points that can help you decide when to quit your job;
Chart out the pros and cons of your current job and reflect on what weighs more. It will give you an idea of when is it time to leave a job.
Identify what your current job is lacking and what you expect from your ideal job. Once you get some clarity, voice it to the management to improve your situation.
If you feel that your organization is not supporting your needs, trust your instincts and conclude that it is probably time to quit your job.
Before sending your resignation, you should be aware of the signs that it’s time to leave a job because there’s no turning back from it. Below are a few signs to check for before sending in your resume;
- You Feel Burnout & Exhaustion:
If your job makes you feel burnout and exhausted and you do not find time or energy to do anything else, it is time to quit your job. It would be best if you kept in mind that any job that takes more than it gives is not worth it. Going to work should not feel dreadful and should enrich your life – both professionally and personally.
However, make sure that the reasons for burnout or exhaustion are not related to your health or any other factor. Make a list of all the factors that could be contributing to your exhaustion, and then decide if your job is the biggest factor or not. - You See No Growth:
If your organization is not providing any opportunity to hone your skills, you should reconsider continuing your stint in that company. You should work where you are given exposure to work on new projects, and where eventually you see yourself getting a promotion.
It is one of the signs you should quit your job immediately if you are working in an organization that does not support your professional growth. Talk to people who have been working in the company before you joined, and try to get honest feedback from them. Has it been a few years for you in the company, and not only are you stuck in the same role, but the people who joined before you are also in the same role? If that’s the case, some serious introspection is in the cards.
Do not hesitate to talk to the management/bosses before you take any concrete action though. It’s surprising how the biggest obstacles can sometimes get resolved by a single, honest conversation. - Your Workplace Is Toxic:
A toxic workplace is one where there is needless stereotyping, harmful gossiping, and discrimination. Workplace toxicity can surface in multiple forms, such as senior management acting indifferently to your needs, distrust among colleagues, high employee turnover, and lack of leadership in the organization. You should know these signs to decide when is it time to leave a toxic job. If you are stuck in such an environment, practice coping mechanisms while you look for a new job.
In case the toxicity stems from a single individual, there’s still hope to salvage the situation. But if that toxic environment is rooted in the organization’s DNA, it’s probably too late. There’s no point in you single-handedly trying to turn the wheel – hoping that relentless attempts will turn the tide – when most probably the wheel is rotten and slated to break apart. - You Are Undercompensated:
You might have accepted the job offer with less pay to grab the opportunity, but if you are highly under-compensated, you should consider leaving the job.
When you accept a job with less pay, you hint to the company that you do not value yourself, which can impact the type of tasks and responsibilities you could be asked to perform at work.
Staying in such a job can make you resentful over time. Hence, you should change your job or request a raise if you have spent a substantial amount of time in the company. - You Don’t Have Work-life Balance:
If your work is taking up all your time and you do not find the energy to do any other work, it is one of the reasons to leave a job. Your job should be a part of your life rather than your whole life. If you are working on off days, not getting a vacation, and often hear your loved ones complaining about your time, you should know when it is time to leave a job. - You Feel Uninspired and Unengaged:
When you start feeling that the current job does not stir you and you often feel boredom, it is the answer to when is it time to leave a job. You might be good at your job, but if the job does not motivate you to look forward to it or you feel you have reached your limit, you should consider finding a new job. - Your Skills Are Not Enhanced:
Your job is supposed to enhance your skill set to grow professionally. However, if the job fails to do so, it is time that you find yourself a new one. Your skill set is your biggest asset in the professional world. Whether you would like to apply to a renowned company or want a better salary, your skill set will take you ahead. Your employer should support you in developing your talents as an employee by offering you opportunities to visit conferences and attend training. If the organization in which you are currently working does not provide opportunities to upskill, you should consider quitting your job. - You Are Experiencing Abuse:
Any physical or mental torture should not happen in the workplace. If you are experiencing abuse or harassment or witness any illegal behavior, it is time to leave the job.
If your office does not offer you a safe space, you should reconsider working for that organization. - Your Health is Affected:
If working in a place is taking a toll on your physical, mental, or emotional health, you should not think twice before quitting a job. Workplace stress has become a general mental health concern which eventually leads to physical issues too. If you are still in the initial stages, wondering when is it time to leave a job, you can consider carving a boundary at a particular time after which you dedicate time doing things outside work. Observe if the company respects that and make decisions based on it. - Your Boss is Intolerable:
What is a good reason to quit your job?
If your boss cannot tolerate you and vice versa.
It is good if you know how to handle conflict with your seniors, but if you have to exercise conflict management skills on an everyday basis, it is time that you quit your job. A healthy office environment should inspire you to be on your best behavior. If your boss is unsupportive and incompetent, you should exit from that organization. - Your Self-worth is Compromised:
Your self-worth should be above anything else, whether in your personal or professional life. If your employer or colleagues make you question your self-worth, you should consider it one of the signs you should leave your job.
Doing a job that questions your self-worth will only disturb your mental peace, and you should strive to grow in a company that adds to your worth, not diminish it. - Your Confidence is Affected:
There can be many situations in the workplace that are not easy to handle. It can be negative feedback from your senior or some argument with colleagues over a trivial issue. You need to know how to manage them.
However, if the comments or arguments are affecting your confidence in any way, it is time that you should consider it as one of the significant reasons to quit a job.
Your workplace environment should make you feel more capable than otherwise. If your achievements do not sync with how you are being treated, feel free to leave that job.
If you ever experience any of these pointers listed here, or more than one of them, then it’s time to seriously consider leaving your job. And when you do leave, you need to focus on you first. Try to gain back your confidence and your self worth. Search for what it is that you enjoy doing most and try to make a career out of it.
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