Dating Apps; Yay or Nay?

Dating Apps: Yay or Nay?

Hello!
Welcome to yet another beautiful article on A Moment With Jennie. Today’s topic is going to be a little different because it is actually different. And as usual, I’ll be sharing my personal experiences and hope to help as many people as I possibly can with my words.

PSA: My words here, in this particular article will mostly be for people who are new to dating app/sites and people who are considering looking for love on there. It’s more of an exposure. Those who are already serial dating app users, my words will definitely come off as things you already are aware of, so my sincere apologies in advance.

So…. Dating Apps huh?
For me, I would just summarize Dating Apps/Sites as WILD! Because I have had my own fair share of experiences on dating Apps/Sites and I just have to say this: A lot of people, over 80% of the people on dating Apps/Sites are there for sexual encounters with strangers. And that is really something I can’t seem to understand. The Apps/Site are called ‘Dating Apps’ ‘Dating Sites’, so why would anybody think it is a good idea to come on there and preposition people. It is both insulting and degrading in every way, not to mention embarrassing and disrespectful too! If you are in need of a place to go to look for sexual partners, there are lots of sex sites to go to. And it will be a whole lot easier for you because then you would not need to explain yourself to whomever you are chatting with, they already know where they are and what to expect. But when you come on a dating app and start to preposition people, especially people who believe they could find genuine friendships and love on there, you confuse them and come off as degrading and insulting. I’ve been there and I have felt all of that.

A few years ago, specifically in 2020, during the lockdown, I tried dating apps for the very first time, after many persuasion from friends and let me tell you this: I WAS STUNNED AT THE AMOUNT OF HORNY MEN ON THERE! And how incredibly fast it is for them to let you know they are after sex first and sex only. I had to go back to my profile, check and double check if by mistake I had written it some where that I was on the app to meet people for sex. I also had to check the photos I posted to confirm that I had not posted any provocative photos that would welcome such advances and behaviour. I was just shocked. And it was very alarming too. I complained to my friends and they said it was a world wide lockdown, people are in their homes, horny with no one to call over. I decided to excuse their rude vulgar behaviour with the whole lock down fiasco. Now, tell me why I was still getting same kinds of messages from men on dating apps years later, as recent as 2022! Did I mention that dating apps are WILD? Yeah, wild is just the right word to describe what goes on there.

Besides being prepositioned on there, there are a few other things that irritated me while I was still very much using dating apps. Like the many fake accounts fraudsters use on naive People (both young and old, it really does not matter to them). It shames me to admit that I almost fell victim to one of them in 2020. Thanks to my family and friends who were quick to spot the sketchy individual for who he was, I was ‘delivered’ from the hands of internet fraudstars. And let me say this here to people considering looking for love on dating apps, these dating apps are the perfect place for internet fraudstars to get people. That is their hunting ground and sadly, a lot people fall victims to this regularly. And because they can guess how desperate people are for companionship, for true love, they know just the right thing to say, the right thing to do to get what they want from these unsuspecting victims.

More? Yes!
There are MAD PEOPLE on dating apps. I am not trying to be funny. I am being serious. There are really crazy people on the internet and dating apps are not exempted. These are the people who enter your DM after going through your profile to ask you stupid questions like ‘what are you doing on a dating app’? Hello? Isn’t it obvious? They ask questions like ‘ When can I come and meet your parents, so we can get married’. Uhm.. Do you have family members? Why would that be the first thing you say to someone, a total stranger on a freaking dating app? People that ask questions like ‘can I get your digit? I don’t like it here much’. You don’t like it here much? Why are you here then? People that immediately want to know your birth history and your background history and that of your parents and grandparents barely 2 seconds after saying ‘hi’ to you on a dating app. And then there are the people that write boldly and clearly on their profile/bio ‘ I’m not here for hookup, I am here to meet genuine like minded people who are looking for serious relationships just like me’ and then proceed to preposition you the moment you reply to their messages! There are the people who write ‘Those that use ‘Am’ to start a sentence should stay away from this user, those that can not write well, please stay away from this user’ and then they proceed to send you a message, saying ‘Am so happy to meet you’. What is that?!! Like I said, MAD PEOPLE Everywhere on dating apps!

A few advice for women and men(old and young) who plan on downloading dating apps, with the purpose of finding love on there:

1. Be careful. Be extremely careful of the kind of information you put out there. Putting your personal information on any social media platform is risky, but on dating apps? That’s like waving a red flag in front of a raging bull. Be mindful of the things you say to strangers online. Only give out details you know will not harm you in any way if anybody tries to use them against you. Again, DO NOT GIVE OUT PERSONAL DETAILS ON DATING APPS!
2. Ignore any and all messages that smells like, feels like, looks like a preposition. Do not even respond, block the person immediately! If you know that you are not there to be viewed as a sex object, to be disrespected, degraded and insulted like that, report and block any user that tries to preposition you in any way.
3. Beware of internet fraudstars. Anyone you notice that’s being overly nice and sweet, that has the perfect word or response to everything, that always want to talk to you about money, RUN AWAY FROM THEM! We all watched Tinder Swindler right? We all saw what happened. There are worse people on dating apps. So be very careful out there if you choose to go on dating apps for anything at all. And if you are yet to see tinder swindler, go see it now! It’s still on netflix. Watch it and learn from the mistakes many women make all in the name of loving someone.
4. Protect yourself always. Be emotionally and mentally strong. That’s the only way to survive in this world, it is also the only way to survive on the internet and on dating apps/sites. Build your confidence so that when these individuals come on to you and try to play a smart one on your emotions or intelligence, you will be prepared and send them packing immediately!
5. Though there are People who claim to have found love on dating apps, I would never advise anyone to go to any dating app in search of love. It never ends well. It mostly always ends in tears and heartbreak. Don’t you think it is best you meet people the traditional way? That way you get to see the person, touch them, hear them speak and decide for yourself if they are real or genuine enough for you to start anything with. Instead of ‘meeting someone’ on these dating apps, where you can’t even be certain they are who they say they are. Be smart, be careful, be strong out there.

Back to the to the topic: Dating Apps:Yay or Nay?
To me, it is a big fat NO. I would never recommend dating apps to anybody. It really isn’t worth the hassle. It isn’t worth any mental and emotional stress you are bound to encounter if you decide to trust people you meet on dating apps or even the process.

Again, there are People who vow they have had good and amazing experiences on dating apps, some would even tell you they found love there. But also note that in most cases that would be the minority, like 1 out of 100. I would rather advice you meet people the old fashion way and make the decision for yourself.

But if you still feel the need to use dating apps, kindly note the many issues on there that I mentioned earlier and be smarter.

That is it on this topic. Thank you for spending A Moment With Jennie. I hope my personal experiences and wise words will be of help to you and to as many people you choose to share this with. Let’s spend more time together in our next post. Thanks for reading!